I was reading a ‘Top 10 Signs You’re Too Good For Her’ list on AskMen.com and this was at number nine:

No.9 – She f***s like a porn star

Sure, we all have those fantasies, but if your woman is taking you into uncharted territory that has serious repercussions for personal safety, there’s a good chance you’re too good for her. No limits or boundaries in the intimate sphere means serious problems with self-respect and control in general. Sure the sex will be mind-blowing, but you’ll never know where she’s been or even how she learned her maneuvers, which can only mean one thing…

Number nine is completely ridiculous. Women like creative sex *SHOCKER* just like men do. And heck yes, a woman who is amazing in bed is likely to have been with many guys. Or she could have explored a lot with one guy. Or maybe she just has a gift. A guy who is amazing in bed is likely to have been with many girls. Shall we just say EVERYONE who’s amazing in bed and isn’t a virgin isn’t good enough for us?

And ’serious problems with self-respect? Yeah, because enjoying our own bodies is such a disrespectful and low self esteem thing to do. Open up a bit, guys – women aren’t the sexually suppressed girls who are afraid to explore their own sexuality anymore. And a guy who thinks he’s “too good” for a woman who is good in bed is extremely insecure with himself and his own abilities/experience.

In the morning before work I try to cram in as much sleep as possible. I get up, get ready as fast as I can, and then go back to bed for a few last minutes of sleep.

When I woke up this morning I was groggy and sleepy. I left HHRay’s house and walked to the bus stop, yawning the entire way there and trying to read my book on the go plus run in order to not be late at the same time – this bus sometimes comes up to five minutes early and I didn’t want to take any chances.

So when a white truck went past the bus stop on the other side of the street as I was waiting and honked, I looked up and mistook one of the guys in there for a friend of mine and waved a sleepy wave.

Well, turns out it wasn’t my friend. They circled the roundabout and stopped in front of the bus stop I was standing by. A tan blonde guy was at the wheel with a black-haired guy near him. They looked older than me, about mid-20s. Pretty cute, though! Anyway, the conversation went something like this:

Guy 1(Blonde hair): “Hi there, what’s your name?”
Me: “None of your business.” :)
Guy 1: “Oh really?”
Me: “Really.”
Guy 2 (Black hair): “Are you American?”
Me: “Yeah…well, not really. I’m Ukrainian, but I lived in the U.S. for 6 years.”
Guy 2: “You’re Ukrainian?”
Me *coming closer as there’s cars passing and you can’t hear properly*: “Yeah, originally Ukrainian.”
Guy 1: “Oh wow, how old are you?”
Me: “Twenty.”
Guy 2: “Yeah, right!”
Me: “I am!” I laugh
Guy 1: “Sure, sure”
Me: *shrug*
Guy 2: “You have a gorgeous smile.”
Me: “Thanks” :)
Guy 1: “Do you have a boyfriend?”
Me: “I do, actually, he lives right around here.”
Guy 1: “Ah ok, lucky guy!”
I grin: “Thanks”
Guy 1: “Pleasure to meet you, anyway!”
I decide that they’re nice enough to know my name: “I’m Liza.”
Guy 1: “Nice to meet you, Liza.”

Throughout the conversation I kept looking to make sure I wouldn’t miss the bus. Thankfully they drove off just as it was coming around the corner.

I normally ignore passing honking cars as while I don’t get annoyed or upset when they do it, I just get this feeling that it’s another pervert passing by. I guess me getting these guys confused with someone I know turned into a pretty good experience – they actually seemed like decent people. A bit cocky and very flirty, but not disgusting or in-your-face.

I met the coolest guy ever when waiting for my bus today. He looked to be in his mid-40s and came up to me asking if I had any change.

“I have to get a bust to Bunbury to see my son play soccer, you see, and I heard the bus drivers only take exact change.” He pulled a wad of two $20s from his pocket. I didn’t have enough change, but told him I was pretty sure that he’d be OK.

We then started talking. The guy sounded gay. Literally. He had that “Oh my gosh, where do you get your hair done? I work in Garden City at a hair place and you SO have to come see me.”

It was strange and curious – he had a 13 year old son. I wonder if he was married earlier in life, before he realized that he wasn’t attracted to women.

It was awesome!!! We had a long chat, I promised him I’d see him at the hair place he works at and wished him luck on his way to Bunbury. Such an awesome meeting!

1) Sit next to a girl on the couch. Start palm reading while completely ignoring her friend.
2) 20 minutes later sit next to the friend on the same couch, hoping she won’t remember you cracking on to her friend from before.

HHRay forgot about me last night :( He was meant to pick me up at 10:30pm from my house to go to his. So there I am, waiting in the driveway in my pajamas, freezing. I don’t have a watch on me as my mobile battery is dead and I just keep looking at the turn in the road like one of those lost puppies waiting for its owner to come home. A taxi even stopped and asked me if I wanted a lift.

HHRay eventually shows up. I’m not sure how much later it was, but I could’ve been standing there for up to half an hour.

It was cold.

I’ve seen many an online store in my online lifetime. Niche stores, general stores, ebay stores, and everything in-between. What I often enjoy looking at the most is specialized stores focusing on particular occasions. And this particular one is making me want to get married just so I can buy something from it. This store is catered towards Groomsmen and is chock full of stuff I’ve never seen before. What the heck is a “Cigar Humidor”? I don’t know, but it sounds cool. The whole atmosphere of the web site screams ’sophisticated’ (Loving the penguin in the header). I am not a man, so I will probably never have the problem of having to buy gifts for groomsmen, but if I was this web site would probably be my savior. Church of Groomsmen Gift-ism, here I come.

When visiting this site, think “sophisticated and old school” because this is what it is. It focuses on displaying classic Groomsmen Gifts, including but not limited to cufflinks, shaving kits, pub signs, and valet trays. What with all the thought I’ve been putting into old school marriages and all lately, this is one site that radiates “old school”. The one thing that kind of puts me off is the steak branding iron section. I know, I know, old school and all – but really, sticking a hot piece of metal with a logo at the end into a piece of meat…why?

Anyway, the web site also presents handy articles about gift giving for Groomsmen and by Groomsmen (all nicely SEO-ed ;) ). And even though the web site is all about Groomsmen, they have not forgotten the Bridesmaids, offering a small section of heart shaped lockets, mirrors, trinket boxes, and more.

Overall, Groomsmen.com is a very well put together store (with a great domain name). And unlike a lot of stores out there who only focus on SEO and keyword stuffing, this site has that and manages to offer great products and look totally awesome at the same time. If I was a man I’d shop there…if I was getting married…and wasn’t a cheap-ass.

The answer is: you don’t. This is assuming you mean the ‘I want to go out with you’ ‘like’. The relationship ‘like’. Because don’t get me wrong – there is nothing wrong with telling a girl you like her in a friendly, platonic setting – as a friend.

But if we are talking about romantic relationships here, imagine how much more powerful that message can be if you show her that you like her instead of simply telling her. Actions often have more of an impact than words. Instead of sitting me down and having a deep and meaningful conversation about it, I’d rather a guy show me he likes me by putting his arm around my waist and drawing me closer to him when we’re walking on the street and some hobo sleaze bag starts staring at me. Protectiveness coupled with a gesture that’s more intimate and romantic than friendly is a great way to show one’s interest.

I think actions in the beginning of whatever relationship you’re having can be great ways to communicate your feelings. They can build suspense and anticipation for what is to come and what is actually happening with your not-yet-verbalized relationship. Of course, you have to also assure that she is attracted to you and watch for her signals, which is another topic for another day.

Eventually, I think that it will be time to have that talk – after both of you pretty much know what is going on, after the girl has seen that you like her. Call me old fashioned, but I like it when the guy says “Will you go out with me?” in that preparatory, slightly unsure but trying to sound confident voice. It’s sweet and I very much appreciate it when a guy takes that plunge. However, even this last assurance of your relationship after all of the nonverbal signals is not really required if you have shown your romantic interest where you stand and where she stands with you.

After the JB shift tonight, the supervisor (who is awesome) was dropping me off at home. It was quite a long way from Mandurah to Cockburn, so we had a chance to talk. She lives with her boyfriend and she was absolutely shocked to find out that after a year and 3 months of dating, HHRay and I haven’t said ‘I love you’ to each other. She’s been dating her boyfriend for less than a year and they already live together and have plans to buy a house in the country in the upcoming future.

I guess after mostly hanging out with people who are 2 and sometimes even 3 years younger than me (people from school), I was a bit clueless about the goings on of people who are my age. And now that I work with girls who are my age and in their early 20s, it’s kind of hit me…wow…most of them have been with their boyfriends for ages and there are only a couple of single girls in the whole group. Several live with their other halves and are ridiculously happy and even have plans for marriage! These girls are my age and in one case even a year younger!

It makes me remember that I’m not too young for a serious, committed relationship and thinking about something bigger, that there is nothing wrong with wanting something more at my age. I’m happy right now, but I’m not sure for how much longer I’ll be able to stay in the ‘whatever happens happens, one day we’ll break up because we’re too young’ stage in my relationship. After a while, you kind of want to know if it’s going anywhere or not. I’m sure not everyone feels like this at this age, but hanging out with these girls and getting to know them and their relationships let me know that there are people who do.

I recently stumbled across this advice post from a PUA to a guy who wants his ex back. I was going to put this as a comment, but comments were disabled and I’m itching to say it somewhere.

I actually agree with a lot of the post…but this got my attention:

Do you really – I mean REALLY – want a woman with trust issues from abuse?

Come on, man. Set a higher standard for yourself.

What is wrong with a woman who was abused in the past and happens to not trust men as completely as she may have before? Why does the author imply that a man who might be attracted to a woman who was abused before somehow must have low standards? A woman’s previous abuse is not her fault, it doesn’t mean she’s damaged for life, and it doesn’t mean that she will never be able to trust this guy. Yes, it takes a bit of caring, attraction and comfort building, and a bit of effort. But hey, I would’ve thought that if you actually like a person to the point of wanting a romantic relationship with them, you’d be willing to put a bit of effort into it.

I’m not saying this guy shouldn’t work to get rid of his one-itis and date other women. But stating her previous abusive situation as the reason to do so and telling a man who might want to be with a woman who was previously abused that he’s got to set ‘higher standards’ for himself is ridiculous and extremely low.