I recently stumbled across a blog for men. A very nice blog, I may add. It presents TONS of great information for the modern man. Check out the blog at www.theworldofmodernmen.com if you wish.However, I ran across one particular post in this blog that I do not agree with. The post presents tips for men about how to not get caught when cheating on their wives. The tips are certainly valid and I’m sure they would work, but it’s the very first part of the post that set off red lights:

Some men are loyal, some are not. It’s that simple and I don’t think you can do much about it.

I disagree with the statement that men can’t do anything about being cheaters. If a man feels the uncontrollable urge to sleep around, why is he even married? Perhaps…

A) He isn’t READY for a committed relationship and is better off being single
B) His current romantic partner simply isn’t the right person for him – she does not fulfill his needs.

In the case of A, perhaps the best thing to do for both parties would be to split up – get a divorce. It would certainly be the better thing to do in my opinion – it would show that the man is decent enough to hold SOME respect for the woman he proposed to. The man wouldn’t be faced with the possible guilt of infidelity and at the same time, he will have shown some dignity to his wife by being open with her about his current inability to stay monogamous instead of keeping her in the dark and looking like a fool when she does find out.

In the case of B, the man can either give up on the relationship and split up as in A, or figure out what exactly it is that is missing from the relationship – which of his needs aren’t being fulfilled? He can then approach his wife in the way that he sees fit in an attempt to work together with her to fill those needs.

I’m sure some men will state: “But I love my wife. I don’t want to divorce her, I enjoy coming home to her. I just feel the need to sleep around – it’s just how I am.”

To those men I say – did she KNOW this is how you are when she married you? Did you LOVE her enough to tell her before she made a commitment to you? A huge part of love is honesty. If you love her, show her some respect and either be honest enough with her to leave her, be honest enough with her to perhaps ask her to consider an open relationship, or – and here’s an idea – show her some real love by not sleeping around. When you love a person, you don’t go behind their backs – not just with infidelity, but with anything that you know will hurt them. You don’t hurt people you love and you don’t lie to people you love. This, in my opinion, is not love. This is either option A or option B, as explained above.